Tuesday, September 27, 2011

An Empty Womb


  I feel like I am a shame in society at times.  I feel as though I am a shame to my family and friends at times...Because I am childless.
     My husband and I have been married for a little over seven years.  We have never gotten pregnant, and I have always had health issues in this area.  For a long time I wondered what was my problem, spiritually, to cause me to be unable to have children.  I would be envious of those who so easily had children, or those who had children and were unthankful for them.  I especially was hurt by women who would have abortions.
     I came to realize that God knows what He is doing in my life.  Sure, I still ache from time to time, especially when I dream of being pregnant or having my first child.  I will wake up still remembering what it felt like:  the anticipation, the joy, the excitement, the overwhelming sense that I am now responsible for the upbringing of this dear soul.  I woke up with empty arms.
     Dear and I have not ruled out the possibility of adoption.  Of course, we have heard the statements, "Well, you might get pregnant after adoption.  That happens, you know."  I know folks mean well.  I don't care anymore if I become pregnant during an adoption process Dear and I may go through in the future.  I do ask God for children, though, however it happens.
     I get to shower love on the children in my local church.  I don't get to do it often with my two nephews.  So, I have adopted many children whose parents and selves have allowed me the opportunity to give love, when I don't have children at home with whom to share.  Maybe one day.
     One of the blessings of still being without children is the strength of our marriage.  When we were married, I was still rebelling against God as a backslidden Christian, and my husband wasn't saved.  It wasn't until a year and a half later that both of those situations changed.  I changed, and my husband was born again.  Then we started learning a lot that we never knew.
     Here we are now, seven years into our marriage and better than we were than when we started.  I can honestly say that I feel more confident in having children in our lives now than then.  We are no where near perfect, but we trust the Lord and His Word to see us properly train and love any soul that may come into our lives.

     Those who have children truly are blessed, and I think especially for the women. We were created to bear them and nurture them.  When that doesn't happen (like myself) for various reasons, it does create issues.  Yet I am learning to use that nurturing love in ministering where and how the Lord desires.  It doesn't replace the desire, but it does help.  :)

**I am sharing a video by Ray Comfort that Dear and I watched last night, thanks to A Wise Woman sharing it on her site.  I am now sharing it with you, because I believe every person ought to see it.  I do caution that not all of this video is suitable for young audiences:  parents, use your discretion.  


1Except the LORD build the house, they labour in vain that build it: except the LORD keep the city, the watchman waketh but in vain.
   2It is vain for you to rise up early, to sit up late, to eat the bread of sorrows: for so he giveth his beloved sleep.
   3Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward.
   4As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth.
   5Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate.

Saturday, September 24, 2011

Keeper At Home Temptations, Part 4


     Sometimes keeping at home sounds boring.  In fact, sometimes it is boring.  It is so much fun to daydream, or to schedule activities outside the home.  We kahs need that refreshment:  visiting with friends, errands-running, a walk, a date night, etc.  
     However, it is too easy to allow those boring, or stressful, days to overwhelm us.  We will mull over our "plight," finding any reason to leave our post.  We don't want to be here.  We want to be over there, doing that thing.  Anything to not have to manage our sometimes boring, or sometimes frustrating, or sometimes _____, home.
     For a brief moment, or moments, we can escape.  We can laugh, we can relax, whereas at our home all we see is work.  Work, work, and more work.  Stress, stress, and more stress.  Dull, dull, and more dull.  Thanklessness after thanklessness for all we do do.  Bad attitudes, bad finances, bad marriages, rebellious children, bad hair days...The list continues.  
     Yet, it really all is in how we approach our God-given post.  Proverbs 14:1 says:  "Every wise woman buildeth her house:  but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands."  We can choose to build up our home, or pluck it down.  Either we are doing what we can with what we have to create our house into a home, (or apartment into a home, since that is my dwelling place), or we can pluck it down with our discontent, bored, frustrated, lazy attitudes.
     Now, please don't misunderstand me.  I am not saying that going out of the home to do things, or take care of things, or visit folks, is wrong.  What I am saying is that when a kah views her home as a cage, wanting to be outside her home, wishing to not take care of her home, or hating it, not wanting to take the time to train the children, not wanting to take care of her husband, and so forth, is wrong.  I Timothy 5:13, 14 says:  "And withal they learn to be idle, wandering about from house to house; and not only idle, but tattlers also and busybodies, speaking things which they ought not.  I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully."  I know that this passage is specifically geared to young widow ladies, but we can take application.  If God wants a widow (woman whose husband has died) to remarry to avoid those things, then obviously He does not want any woman doing those things.  2 Timothy 3:16, 17 says:  "All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness:  That the man of God may be perfect, throughly furnished unto all good works."
     We need to be diligent to not get caught up in the thinking that the grass is greener on the other side, (or for our situation, outside the home).  If you constantly are daydreaming, scheming, and finding yourself out of your home, and your home is in disarray (whether it be the spirit of the home, the home itself, or both), then indeed there is a problem.  You might want to ask yourself why you don't want to be home, and if and how you are encouraging the problem(s) there.  Then look to the Word of God for the solution(s), and seek the Lord in being victorious in this area.
     Satan would love to destroy your home.  He will use any means to see its demise, and all too often he does start with the woman, just like he did with Eve.  Was she discontent?  I don't know.  If she was content, I wonder if she would have denied the temptation to be and do something "better."  Genesis 3:1-6:  "Now the serpent was more subtil than any beast of the field which the LORD GOD had made.  And he said unto the woman, Yea, hath God said, Ye shall not eat of every tree of the garden?  And the woman said unto the serpent, We may eat of the fruit of the trees of the garden:  But of the fruit of the tree which is in the midst of the garden, God hath said, Ye shall not eat of it, neither shall ye touch it, lest ye die.  And the serpent said unto the woman, Ye shall not surely die:  For God doth know that in the day ye eat thereof, then your eyes shall be opened, and ye shall be as gods, knowing good and evil.  And when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was pleasant to the eyes, and a tree to be desired to make one wise, she took of the fruit thereof, and did eat, and gave also unto her husband with her; and he did eat."
She shouldn't have listened to the devil, and we shouldn't either.  


  1. Read the Bible.  Before reading, pray that God would make you sensitive to His teaching.  Let Him cleanse you and change your heart in this matter.  "Wherewithal shall a young man cleanse his way? by taking heed thereto according to thy word."--Psalm 119:9
  2. Study the different women of the Bible.  Pay attention to their characteristics.  Pay attention to how they occupied themselves, and where.  I just did a brief study this morning on Ruth.  She is a godly testimony of a woman who did not set about being a busybody, idle, or a roaming spirit, even in the face of poverty.  She kept herself occupied in the care of Naomi and herself.  Due to her testimony, Boaz took notice of her.  Read the book of Ruth, (only 4 chapters), to find out the end of the true account if you don't already know. ;)  Also, a word study or studies would be beneficial.  Words such as diligent, faithful, keeper at home, woman, and content are a good start.  "Study to shew thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth."--2 Timothy 2:15
  3. As always, go to your husband and pray together on this issue.  "Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed.  The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much."--James 5:16
  4. Be diligent!  Know your enemy!  Satan is diligent to seek ways to destroy the saints, and knows us well.  He is subtle, he is smart, and he will use any means he can to cause us to sin.  "Be thou diligent to know the state of thy flocks, and look well to thy herds."--Proverbs 27:23  
Just joining the "TEMPTATIONS" series?  Here are the first three:

Wednesday, September 21, 2011

W.o.W Wednesday!


     We've been having a missions conference at the church I attend.  It has been a greatly needed series of messages.  Each one has impacted this girl right here, as well as others.
     The first night started on charity.  In order to reach the lost, we are to have charity.  However, charity is supernatural in that it comes of God, not of us.  In order to have it in our lives means we are to have a relationship with God (through His blessed Son Jesus Christ), and be living in the Spirit, not in the flesh.  We are to be loving God the way we should before we are ever able to love another person.  Once things are where they ought to be, we will be able to be charitable with others.  (1 Corinthians 13-14:1; Colossians 3:1-4; 2 Peter 1:5-8; Galatians 5:16, 19-26; 1 John 4:7-12, 16-21; Matthew 22:37-40; Ephesians 2:4; Romans 5:5; 1 John 5:1-3)
     The second night spoke of being a living sacrifice.  We are to sacrifice this flesh's desires and wants on the altar in place of a much better desire:  that of God.  Who we are and what we have are to be at the full disposal of God.  It is our reasonable service.  We are to shun the world's ways, and seek after His ways.  We are to give Him a consecrated, acceptable offering of ourselves.  After all God did for us, it is only reasonable that we give ourselves and all we have back to Him!  (Romans 11:33-12; 2 Corinthians 8:1-5; Colossians 1:12-17; 1 Corinthians 6:19, 20; Romans 8:28)
     Last night spoke of "The Need For A Passion For Souls."  Christ came to seek and save that which was lost, (which I used to be).  He was moved by compassion, and we should be, too.  He wants us to see the need and be in a constant, fervent prayer for the lost.  Outside of Him, their destiny is Hell.  He told that truth to them:  some repented, some scoffed, some were indifferent.  Regardless, the truth needs to be told.  We don't want their blood on our hands.  This last message was very convicting to me, for indeed I need to do more to reach a lost and dying world.  (Matthew 9:32-38; Luke 19:8-10; Mark 10:35-45; Romans 5:6-8; Ephesians 2:11-13; Luke 15:3-7; Ephesians 2:1-3; Luke 16:27, 28; Ezekiel 33:7-9; Acts 1:8)

Today's word of wisdom again comes from the Bible.  Christ is the Sum of Wisdom, so it is fitting to hear what He has to say:

"But when he saw the multitudes, he was moved with compassion on them, because they fainted, and were scattered abroad, as sheep having no shepherd.
   Then saith he unto his disciples, The harvest truly is plenteous, but the labourers are few;
   Pray ye therefore the Lord of the harvest, that he will send forth labourers into his harvest."
Matthew 9:36-38

Friday, September 16, 2011

Learning From The Father's Chastening

     Well, God definitely allows me to continue learning! Today would have been a better day for me, spiritually, if I had just heeded the warnings from God's Word!  Aah, you'd think I'd have learned by now...
     Just as I spoke yesterday, one must always be on guard while guarding the home!  Unfortunately for me, I gave in to temptations early on in my day, thus enabling a foothold for my flesh and Satan.  Nevertheless, God claimed the victory when He worked on my heart to repent toward Him; confessing my sins and seeking His forgiveness, He claimed the victory!
     When those days come for you, too, my dear sister in Christ, be quick to repent!  Nothing's sweeter than a close relationship with Christ.  The only way for you and I to have that close relationship is obeying His commands.  "If ye love me, keep my commandments."  John 14:15
     Oh, bless the Lord, for He indeed is good!  Since He is a good Father, He is good to chastise me when I need it!  I thank Him publicly for caring so much for me to not only die for me, come back from the dead for me, save my soul, but also continue working on my life to be as such as brings Him honour, glory, and pleasure!

"...My son, despise not thou the chastening of the Lord, nor faint when thou art rebuked of him:  For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and every son whom he receiveth.  If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as with sons; for what son is he whom the father chasteneth not?  But if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are ye bastards, and not sons.  Furthermore we have had fathers of our flesh which corrected us, and we gave them reverence:  shall we not much rather be in subjection unto the Father of spirits, and live?  For they verily for a few days chastened us after their own pleasure; but he for our profit, that we might be partakers of his holiness."  Hebrews 12:5a-10

Thursday, September 15, 2011

Keeper At Home Temptations, Part 3


DEFINITION OF KEEPER (from the Merriam-Webster online dictionary)

One that keeps:  as
  1. Protector
  2. Gamekeeper
  3. Warden
  4. Custodian  

Synonyms to "keeper:"

  1. Custodian
  2. Guardian
  3. Guard
  4. Lookout
  5. Minder
  6. Picket
  7. Sentinel
  8. Sentry
  9. Warden
  10. Warder
  11. Watch
  12. Watcher
  13. Watchman

     Being a keeper at home is such a blessing.  I've said that statement before, haven't I?  :)  Well, it will always be true.
     Part of being a kah is keeping the home.  We dress it, clean it, nurture it, because most of the home is the heart of it.  Thus, many times folks will say their mother was/is the "heart" of the home.  Hmm.
     Keeping the home is much more than just the cleanliness of it, though that in itself is important.  An even bigger aspect of keeping the home is guarding it.  Just as the gatekeeper watches over the gate, to insure no enemies enter, and sounds the alarm for when they see danger approaching, so, too, are women to be watching over their domain.
     Yet all too often we grow slack in this area.  We allow the enemy through the doors of the camp.  We bring in wicked entertainment, that often is disguised as "innocent."  That "innocent" movie or show often shows all sorts of sins that are praised, encouraged, and magnified as "good."  Its fruit is wickedness, and we let it in our home.
     We also allow in reading material that is of the same manifestation.  We allow music that is ungodly as well.  How are these things edifying us?  How are these things aiding us in our walk with God?  Simply put, they are not.
     It is very tempting to let things slide.  We grow weary of the battles.  We grow weary of having to explain to folks why we don't allow this, or why we do that.  It is intimidating.  It is sometimes scary.  We have an adversary, the devil, and he uses every means in his arsenal to wear us down so that he can claim the victory.
     It is very tempting to fit in with the crowd.  I believe this is one of his strongest tactics.  We want to be accepted.  We want approval.  However, those desires ought to never cause us to give up in the fight.  They ought to never let us compromise on holy standards, set forth by God.  Our home, our life, is too precious to waste.
    Being a keeper at home is a perilous job, in a way.  We are constantly under attack by Satan.  Anything he can do to undermine God's design, His plans, he will do.  Just like Satan went to Eve in the garden, he will come to us as well.  He wants to use God's Word perversely, and add to it to confuse us.  He wants us to doubt God.  He wants us to "justify" wicked living.  He wants us to take our precious gift of salvation as a license to sin.  "We're saved; we're on our way to Heaven, praise God!  I needn't worry about how I live, because nothing can separate me from God!  It's okay to do _____, or see ____, or listen to ____, or allow _____."  Lies from the pit of Hell, that's what they are.
     Let us not grow weary in well-doing.  Let us seek refreshment from the Lord to carry us through each day.  Let us keep our eyes on Christ so as to not be scared when the enemy advances.  Let us hold fast those doctrines Christ set forth to protect our homes, protecting our very spiritual lives.  Let us not be likened unto those silly women who are so easily led astray.
     Let us hold fast to the doctrines of Christ.  Let us guard what comes in to our homes while our blessed husbands are away working.  Let us be careful even of what attitudes we bring into our home.  Though the temptations can be strong, let us turn to Christ for the victory.

I Timothy 3
  1This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come.

   2For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy,

   3Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good,
   4Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God;
   5Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away.
   6For of this sort are they which creep into houses, and lead captive silly women laden with sins, led away with divers lusts,
   7Ever learning, and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth.
   8Now as Jannes and Jambres withstood Moses, so do these also resist the truth: men of corrupt minds, reprobate concerning the faith.
   9But they shall proceed no further: for their folly shall be manifest unto all men, as their's also was.
   10But thou hast fully known my doctrine, manner of life, purpose, faith, longsuffering, charity, patience,
   11Persecutions, afflictions, which came unto me at Antioch, at Iconium, at Lystra; what persecutions I endured: but out of them all the Lord delivered me.
   12Yea, and all that will live godly in Christ Jesus shall suffer persecution.
   13But evil men and seducers shall wax worse and worse, deceiving, and being deceived.
   14But continue thou in the things which thou hast learned and hast been assured of, knowing of whom thou hast learned them;
   15And that from a child thou hast known the holy scriptures, which are able to make thee wise unto salvation through faith which is in Christ Jesus.
   16All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness:
   17That the man of God may be perfect, throughly furnished unto all good works.


  1. Read the Bible.  Do a word study on "keeper," "guardian," "watch," "watchman," or any other words that are similar to "keeper."  That kind of study will help you understand what the Bible says is a "keeper" and such.  Then purpose to do it.  Just as I Timothy 3:16, 17 say above, "All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness:  That the man of God may be perfect, throughly furnished unto all good works."
  2. Pray.  Seek the Lord with a humble, willing heart to obey Him.  Don't be afraid to follow His will.  He will not lead you astray.  If you're scared or intimidated, tell Him!  He will help you overcome those fears, or any doubts you may have.  "Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you."  I Peter 5:7
  3. Talk to your husband.  Most husbands (godly ones), will pray for you and with you.  My husband has been one of my greatest counselors and prayer partners.  Since he and I made the decision to obey God in me being a kah, he has done all he can do to assist me in my duty.  Let your husband be the same for you.  "Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.  Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.  Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.  So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.  For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:  For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.  For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.  This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband."  Ephesians 5:22-33
  4. Live circumspectly.  Remember that there is always an adversary, the devil, out seeking whom he may devour--that includes our home.  He hates a godly home, and wants it destroyed.  He wants the praise, not God.  "Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour:"  I Peter 5:8

The Imperfect Housewife

Wednesday, September 14, 2011

W.o.W. Wednesday!

Today's word of wisdom again comes from the source of wisdom, the beloved Holy Bible.  Particularly picked is this passage, due to yesterday's Bible study I did for my morning devotion.  I pray it is a blessing to you!


   1Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not charity, I am become as sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal.
   2And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not charity, I am nothing.
   3And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, and have not charity, it profiteth me nothing.
   4Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,
   5Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;
   6Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth;
   7Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.
   8Charity never faileth: but whether there be prophecies, they shall fail; whether there be tongues, they shall cease; whether there be knowledge, it shall vanish away.
   9For we know in part, and we prophesy in part.
   10But when that which is perfect is come, then that which is in part shall be done away.
   11When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.
   12For now we see through a glass, darkly; but then face to face: now I know in part; but then shall I know even as also I am known.
   13And now abideth faith, hope, charity, these three; but the greatest of these is charity.

Tuesday, September 13, 2011

Be Careful How You Pray...

...Because God does answer prayers!

     As I prayed this morning, I was sincerely wanting God's will in my life to be done today.  I did not want to be a hindrance to His plan(s).  I wanted to be focused in my morning devotion, I wanted to truly respond to His Word according to His pleasure.  I no longer want to just rush through it, get a little nibble, and not be meditating on His Word.
     ....So, He answered my request.  This morning God moved my heart to work on a Bible study I typically do in the evening.  Instead of being in my bedroom, He drew me to the living room with that study.  He brought me to a study and place in which I could meditate on what He had me study.  Indeed, the mornings are best for some good brain exercising!
     I was so touched in my spirit by the lesson God taught me.  I am still meditating on it.  I cannot help to do otherwise.  It was very revealing to me, and I know will be so as well for others.  Here it is:

One of the last questions on today's study dealt with comparing myself to the characteristics of charity.  I was to mark off those qualities I lack.  Needless to say, I was overcome with shame that I was not meeting God's holy standard of true love (charity).  However, I was overcome with encouragement to realize that the qualities Christ is and has, and daily exercises them towards me!  Therefore, I know that I can exhibit them as well, by His sovereign grace.  




Not envious

Not boastful

Not proud

Behaves seemingly (appropriately)

Not easily provoked

Thinks no evil

Doesn't rejoice in 

Rejoices in truth

Carries burdens

Has full faith

Has full hope

Has endurance

Never fails

     It was refreshing to look myself in the mirror of God's Word.  Indeed, He spoke to me through It.  I asked Him to speak, and He did.  LOUD AND CLEAR.  I have a lot of work to be done in my life, but thankfully, it's in the Lord's grace that it rests, not in my weak flesh.  How exciting it is, to be molded into a lady as Christ sees fit!

**If any are interested in this study, which has 30 separate lessons, please email me.  I can send you the link to the site that gives this study away free.  Warning:  it is not for the faint of heart, but for those sincerely wanting to be fashioned according to the Word of God.  I have learned much about myself in the light of His Word, particularly in the Scriptures dealing with lady-like behaviour, character, ladies of the Bible and their character, etc.


Monday, September 12, 2011

God Sure Knows How To Make His Girl Feel Special!

  © Art.com 2011

  Today as I reflected on so many answers to prayer in one day (the ones I could see), I could not help but have immense pleasure in my heart toward my Heavenly Father!  Some of these prayer requests have been sent up to Him for a long time; others, not so much.  Regardless of the length of time, these were important requests, and to see them answered in such wonderful ways fills me with awe and thankfulness.
     I am thankful that He not only heard my prayers, but was ever so kind to answer them.  Whenever those answers come, I always feel so special to Him.  It truly never ceases to cause me to wonder how Christ can love me so, and do things in such ways that make me feel like His special little girl.  :)
     To some of these requests Dear was made aware, others he was not.  He was able to delight in of which he knew, but I was able to privately feast on the happiness welled within me of those private requests answered publicly.  Indeed the Word of God is true when it says, "But thou, when thou prayest, enter into thy closet, and when thou hast shut thy door, pray to thy Father which is in secret; and thy Father which seeth in secret shall reward thee openly."--Matthew 6:6.

I thank Him for being true to His Word!

"The LORD is my strength and my shield; my heart trusted in him, and I am helped:  therefore my heart greatly rejoiceth; and with my song will I praise him."
Psalm 28:7

Thursday, September 8, 2011

Keeper At Home Temptations, Part 2


     Oh, the blessedness of being a keeper at home, or as I'm liking to say, kah.  My husband chuckles at me whenever he hears me use that term, whether on here or elsewhere.  Any way to make him smile, right? ;)
     Nevertheless, it does not put a smile on his face to know that I am wasting time; precious time that is irreplaceable.  I do it so well.  Yet, it is a shame.  Not only does it bring displeasure to Dear, it brings displeasure to Christ for me to sin so...so...easily.
     I like orderliness, but I also appreciate spontaneity.  I like schedules, but I also like flexibility.  I enjoy writing things on my calendar(s), for it reminds me of those important meetings or tasks ahead of me.  I also like it because I feel more grown up...
     Unfortunately, I do not practice writing out those daily tasks, or weekly tasks.  I say "unfortunately" because I end up wasting a lot of precious time.  Sure, I'm not a mother, but I am a daughter of God and a wife.  There is plenty to be doing.  Any free time can be spent rightly, but only after what work is necessary to be done is completed first.
     All too often I find myself leisurely attending my day.  I do not strike out to accomplish chores.  Let me rephrase that statement:  I know there are chores to be done, and am willing (generally) to do them, but they don't always necessarily precede pleasure time.  You see, I always told myself as I was a youngster, that once I became an adult, I would do as I saw fit.
     The flesh really likes that idea!  "Why don't I just sleep in today?  No one will know."  Except most folks do know, but the most important person of all, GOD, knows.  
     "That chore can wait for another day.  There's nothing coming up in the next few days to hinder me from getting it done.  I really want to do ______ instead.  I'll just hide _____ before Dear gets home, so he doesn't think I'm slothful."  Yet again, GOD knows.
     I realize that there is a time to work, and a time to play.  There is a time for chores, and a time for leisure.  The priorities need to be in the right place for those times to be distinctly apportioned.
     I know that God does not want me to waste my time.  I know that He has allowed me to be a part of the day He has created, and wants me to use it profitably for His pleasure.  However, I have committed the sin of using this time solely for my pleasure.
     If I truly meditated on the fact that time is given to me by God for God, I would be in a much better state than I am.  If I was not selfish, I would be content to seek His will in how I use all of the time He gives me.  I would not recoil at His commands, or how He structures my day(s).  I would be most appreciative to Him.
     Since I am at home, and not working for a secular boss, it is easy to take advantage of the position I hold.  Dear is out in the world earning our income, while I am at home keeping it.  If I valued God more, and Dear more, I would value time more.

"Lord, make me to know mine end, and the measure of my days, what it is:  that I may know how frail I am.  Behold, thou hast made my days as an handbreadth; and mine age is as nothing before thee:  verily every man at his best state is altogether vanity.  Selah."
Psalm 39:4, 5

"...We spend our years as a tale that is told.  The days of our years are threescore years and ten; and if by reason of strength they be fourscore years, yet is their strength labour and sorrow; for it is soon cut off, and we fly away...So teach us to number our days, that we may apply our hearts unto wisdom."
Psalm 90:9b, 10, 12

"As for man, his days are as grass:  as a flower of the field, so he flourisheth."
Psalm 103:15

"Man is like to vanity:  his days are as a shadow that passeth away."
Psalm 144:4

"For all flesh is as grass, and all the glory of man as the flower of grass.  The grass withereth, and the flower thereof falleth away:"
I Peter 1:24

     We see in Scripture that our time on earth is precious, because it is as the flower in the field that fades away.  We see how precious our time is by the death of those we love.  Many times at funerals it is discussed how one spent their time.  How convicting it is to me, then, that I waste so much of it.
    Yet, there is hope.  There is hope because God is my hope!  There is hope in His Word.  I can seek Him in prayer, for the victory over this sin for which He died!  In Him is the victory, and I will then be a blessing to Him and Dear in this area of my life!


  1. Read God's Word.  His Word is our source of wisdom.  In it He tells us:  "Redeeming the time, because the days are evil."--Ephesians 5:16
  2. Pray.  Be honest with the Lord.  He already knows with what you're struggling, now we just have to be willing to admit it openly to Him.  When we confess it to Him, with a repentant heart, He is faithful and just to forgive us that sin.  He will not only forgive us, but He will equip us through His grace to sin no more!  "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness."--I John 1:9
  3. Let your husband help you.  Admit to him your fault.  A godly husband is a great blessing.  He will seek to protect you from Satan's temptations to get you to sin in this area.  He will pray for you.  Let him!  "Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered."--1 Peter 3:7
  4. Practice discipline.  I know that it is easier to say it than to do it, but it is necessary to overcome slothful time management.  Purpose to arise early, spend time with the Lord, then set about the day getting chores/tasks completed, then leisure.  Allow the Lord room to structure your day.  Do not become so rigid as to become frustrated when unexpected things occur.  Realize that the Lord is allowing opportunities for you/us:  to grow, to minister...Whatever He's trying to do.  
**Again, any other verses of Scripture pertaining to this issue, or words of wisdom are always appreciated!**

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Wednesday, September 7, 2011

W.o.W. Wednesday!

 1The elder unto the elect lady and her children, whom I love in the truth; and not I only, but also all they that have known the truth;
   2For the truth's sake, which dwelleth in us, and shall be with us for ever.
   3Grace be with you, mercy, and peace, from God the Father, and from the Lord Jesus Christ, the Son of the Father, in truth and love.
   4I rejoiced greatly that I found of thy children walking in truth, as we have received a commandment from the Father.
   5And now I beseech thee, lady, not as though I wrote a new commandment unto thee, but that which we had from the beginning, that we love one another.
   6And this is love, that we walk after his commandments. This is the commandment, That, as ye have heard from the beginning, ye should walk in it.
   7For many deceivers are entered into the world, who confess not that Jesus Christ is come in the flesh. This is a deceiver and an antichrist.
   8Look to yourselves, that we lose not those things which we have wrought, but that we receive a full reward.
   9Whosoever transgresseth, and abideth not in the doctrine of Christ, hath not God. He that abideth in the doctrine of Christ, he hath both the Father and the Son.
   10If there come any unto you, and bring not this doctrine, receive him not into your house, neither bid him God speed:
   11For he that biddeth him God speed is partaker of his evil deeds.
2 John 1-11

Thursday, September 1, 2011

Keeper At Home Temptations, Part 1

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     Being a KAH (Keeper At Home) is such an incredible blessing!  My husband is not trying to stand in the way of my relationship with Christ...In fact, he greatly encourages it!  I am a blessed woman.  :)
     As the years pass, I realize indeed how much of Titus 2:5 has to do with my relationship with the Lord.  If the Lord tells me to do something, and I do it not, I have sinned against Him. If I listen to Him and obey, our relationship is all that much sweeter.  Also, if my husband is not prohibiting me, how wonderful!
     Why would my husband stand in the way of me being a KAH?  Well, because of the thinking of the day, he could have very well said,  "Honey, you have to help with the finances.  I want you to get a job."  Or, he could have said, "Honey, that keeping-at-home-stuff is not for our culture today.  God doesn't expect you to be a keeper at home anymore.  We don't have children, either, so it's really not that important."  Or, he could have said a host of other things.
     If he had said any of those things, or anything else for that matter in that regard, what would I have done?  Well, if I wanted to be a stinker about it, I would have fought him on it.  However, that would not have pleased my Lord, for in 1 Peter 3 God tells me to win my husband over by my conversation (lifestyle), with the hidden man of the heart.  It is not my place to be the Holy Spirit, only be usable by the Holy Spirit.  So, I would have submitted to my husband, if I was in the right frame of mind.
     I said all that to say this:  I am a blessed woman because my husband is obeying the Scripture, too.  Due to his obedience, it makes it easier for me to obey.  Since he sees the same verse I do, and believes God at His word, my husband is liberating me to the blessed call of my Father to be a kah.
     I used to keep a secular job.  I worked many hours.  Then I would come home, be tired from a long day's work, and still be responsible for the management of our home.  It wasn't conducive to my walk with God, or my relationship with Dear.  There were many arguments, due to our physical tiredness, but also my/our spiritual weariness.  Finally, when we both read over Titus 2, and other Scripture, it was clear to both of us that it was not the Lord's intention that I not be a kah.  
     Once I gave my secular boss my 2-weeks-notice, my spirit was delighted!  It took a bit of adjustment for me to get back into the routine of being a kah, but it was sure worth it!  Dear and I have greatly benefited by obeying this Scripture, as well as the others that coincide with it.  It may not always be temporally, but we are nevertheless blessed.  :)
     Being a kah is a full-time job.  I am constantly asked what fills my days, what I do while Dear is working...Things of that nature.  Though we currently have no children, my days do still get full:

  1. I wake up.
  2. I pray thanks to God for another day in which He's allowed me to participate.
  3. I have my morning devotion.
  4. I start laundry.
  5. I start dishes.
  6. I make our bed.
  7. I feed the cats.
  8. I have breakfast.
  9. I brush my teeth and wash my face.
  10. If it's a Monday, I typically start doing my weekly cleaning:  dusting, cleaning mirrors/glass, wiping down counters, cleaning the toilet and shower/tub, straightening up items, sweeping, mopping, cleaning sinks, wiping down walls/cabinets/etc..., vacuuming, garbage...The list can continue, depending on level of dirtiness/cleanliness.
  11. If it's a certain week, I go help M.  Due to health concerns, the cleaning over there is much more detailed than at my home, so what would maybe take me 3-4 hrs. to do if it were just Dear and I living there takes me double that time for her.  I don't begrudge it.  We are so blessed to be allowed to help her in this way.  While I'm indoors cleaning, Dear does her yard work, (after he is done with his secular job).
  12. Again, if it's a certain week, I go over to the other Ms. M.'s house.  I am usually cleaning for 1 1/4 hrs. - 2 hrs. for her.
  13. I like running errands.  It gets me out of the house.  I don't mind being in the house, because by the blessedness of God it can be a safe haven in a world full of sin.  However, errands must be run:  I.e., groceries, bills, odds and ends...And I get to do them!
  14. I am available to be of assistance to folks (generally).  Though my time slots do fill (mind you, I make sure to have time for just Dear and I, or for fellowship with folks...Rest and fellowship are crucial for sanity!), I try to be available when I can, and as the Lord directs. 
  15. I cook/bake.
  16. I sew/mend.
  17. I scrapbook/make crafts, (from time to time). 
     This list is just a general idea of my days.  The rest of the week is filled with whatever the Lord puts in it, or we put in it.  I cherish my down-time, but know too much of it can lead to trouble.  That trouble is what I'm going to be discussing in this new series.


     How can someone who is being a kah over-spend money?  It's actually quite easy.  Regardless of having children, the temptation to buy, buy, buy is everywhere.  That is one facet that makes America great, right?  You can purchase to your *heart's* content.  (*Heart* = lust)  
     Satan knows that a kah who occasionally gets bored, worn-down, or sees all those glorious sales can be tempted to spend that money!  Whether it's justified, "We need all these groceries...We need that____."  You fill in the blank.  Deep down we know that all we're doing is justifying feeding the lust of our flesh, the pride of life, and the lust of the eyes.  If we were honest with God, ourselves, and our spouse/family, we would admit that we want those things, not necessarily need them.
     I am not saying those things wouldn't be useful.  Indeed, food is useful.  But, there is a balance of how much we have.  As Proverbs 30:7-9 says:  

"Two things have I required of thee; deny me them not before I die:  Remove far from me vanity and lies:  give me neither poverty nor riches; feed me with food convenient for me:  Lest I be full, and deny thee, and say, Who is the LORD? or lest I be poor, and steal, and take the name of my God in vain."

     Do we really need umpteen pairs of shoes, just in case we have a visit by the President?  Do we really need all those pieces of dishes?  Do we need all that decor?  Do we need the latest this, or that, or those?  Can we be content with what we do have, and get only what we need?  Can we allow God to decide when we can use His riches to purchase our wants?
     I know the temptation.  I have to face it every day.  Being raised in a nation where you can get what you want, when you want it, and have partook in that tradition, it is second nature to me.  However, when God saved me He set me on a new path.  
     That new path calls me to be a faithful steward.  Just as I'm now practicing being a good steward of the body He has given me, I must practice it with the riches He bestows.  He has allowed me to be His daughter, a wife, a kah, amongst other things.  I must do His name well.
     I do not want my husband working hard only to see his hard-earned money take off with wings and fly away.  Yet, that is what I do to him every time I indulge in my lusts.  I want to be a better help meet than that, and a better example than that.  Why not be a better daughter to God than that, come to think of it?  
     I know better.  I just need to put myself to being more disciplined that I've been.  God's grace will be the only strength I have to overcome this nasty sin.  God's grace is going to be what avails you, as well, dear sister in Christ.  Why don't we be different than the others women out in the world and be just the way God wants us to be?  We can be His dear children that do His name well, who seek His permission before spending His money...Who seek His permission on everything we do/don't do!  
     By His grace, Dear has been assisting me in this battle I have.  He reminds me that if this, then that.  If I'm smart, I listen to him.  If I'm rebellious, I don't.  He is patient with me, usually.  :)  God is even greater than he, and pricks my heart when I'm about to do wrong.  I'm glad He cares for the details of my life.  I'm glad He cares what I do and don't do.  I plan on working harder to be submitted to Him, again, by His grace.  Will you join me?

Some Ways To Avoid Immodest Spending

  1. Read God's Word.  See what He has to say regarding our provisions, our wants, stewardship.  "Moreover it is required in stewards, that a man be found faithful." 1 Corinthians 4:2.
  2. Pray!  When you feel the urge to splurge, seek the Lord!  "But he giveth more grace.  Wherefore he saith, God resisteth the proud, but giveth grace unto the humble.  Submit yourselves therefore to God.  Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.  Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you.  Cleanse your hands, ye sinners; and purify your hearts, ye double minded.  Be afflicted, and mourn, and weep:  let your laughter be turned to mourning, and your joy to heaviness.  Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and he shall lift you up."  James 4:6-10
  3. Let your husband help you.  Most men want to help their wives, but we tend to get in the way of their help.  "We can do it ourselves" attitude, or the "We don't need your help," thinking.  Godly men will lift their wives up in prayer--let them!  Admit to them your struggles, then let them as the Lord directs lead you to victory!  God has placed them in the care over you, so let them do it.  "But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God."  1 Corinthians 11:3  
  4. Avoid situations that you know will throw you into temptation.  For example, don't go grocery shopping on a hungry stomach!  I've done that so many times, and ended buying way more than necessary!  "See then that ye walk circumspectly, not as fools, but as wise, Redeeming the time, because the days are evil."  Ephesians 5:15, 16
     These are just a few ways to avoid sinning against the Lord in this area.  If you have any other ways, please share!  :)

**By the way, I'm linking up with Miss Gail for her Thursday Link-Up.  Care to visit some other gals writing on home-making and such?  Please do!

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