Tuesday, July 29, 2014

How I'm Learning To Cope, When Relationships Change

We have all heard that saying, that goes something like this:

"Some friends are here for a reason; some for a season; some for a lifetime."
A Day At The Beach
 Frederick Morgan

How do you cope, when you have attached yourself to those, who were not "lifetime" friends?...

Sympathy
Giclee Print


Myself, I have been pondering that question, as of late.  



     I tend to stay attached, even when it is not right.  So, when I am introduced to a situation, wherein I must remove myself from a relationship...Well, I tend to find a hard time in so doing.
     Thus, if I have a hard time leaving, (on my own), GOD helps me.  However, what about those times, that you do not see it right off?  You know, where things seem ok...seem healthy...?

In my experience, God orchestrates an opportunity for growth.

Did you also know, that with growth, can come growing "pains?"


     As my Heavenly Father, God watches over me.  He knows what is best for me; I do not.  I have a pretty good record, indicating such.
     I have found, that by closely examining the situation, as well as taking a step back to look at the overall picture, I usually can see some reasons why God allowed friendships to end, or change.  There are, typically, many reasons:  for everyone involved.
     I am finding comfort, in the Lord.  He knows what He is doing, or allowing to be done.  Ultimately, it is for His glory, and that reason is the most important.  Yet, the pain has not disappeared.
     I am reading His Word.  I am praying to Him.  I have been, and will be, seeking counsel; or, just a listening ear, from those trusted friends.  Most of all, I am seeking Jesus' arms.
     I have been thanking Him, for it all:  the good, and the bad.  Easier said than done, sometimes; but, it is necessary for me, so to do.  I know that even with the "bad," there is something good that will come of it.  I may not see the good, in my lifetime on this earth, but I know that God always triumphs over evil!
     I have been thanking Him for all the lessons He taught me, and is teaching me.  I want to use those lessons, as I move forward in my life.  I do not want to repeat the errors of the past.  Also, I desire to empower others, so as to avoid the pitfalls into which I fell.
     I have been sharing with Him my heart.  I have been weeping at my Father's feet.  I have not sought to hide anything from Him, because He already knows everything.  I recognize that fact, and want to allow Him to guide my heart, as I share it with Him.
     I try to meditate on His Word.  Whether it be passages that come to mind as I pray, or what I read in the Bible, I muse upon them.  I try not to lose the opportunity to have my heart and mind saturated, with what my Heavenly Father has for me.
     I have acknowledged that what is done, is done.  If there were amends to be made, I have sought to make them.  If others do not desire amending, I pray.  I have been looking for ways to bless:  chiefly, it is through praying for them, (in that kind of situation).  I am trying not to faint in well-doing towards those whom I have loved, and "lost," so to speak.  It may be painful, but for me, it is worth it.
     Right now, I see whom the Lord has currently placed in my life.  I desire to pour my heart into those folks, as He directs.  Is it a phone call?  Then, I call.  Is it a text?  Then, I text them.  Is it a visit?  Then, we visit.  Do I pray?  Then, I pray for them.  There are so many opportunities that He shows me, and I try not to pass by them.
     I am trying not to pass by the people, either.  It can be easy to do, when lingering on "what was...what could have been...what should have been..."  I have been thanking Him for these folks, and working at cultivating these relationships.  It does not mean I have forgotten those loved ones, from yesterday.  It means I am seeking to live, in the present.
     What happens, though, when as you are ministering to your "new" friends, that memories come flooding from the past?  Well, I am trying not to ignore it, but also trying not to "beat a dead horse."  I have been using that moment, as an opportunity to pray for those folks that came to mind.  I might think about how I could bless them, physically, if at all.  If not, I have been praying that the Lord blesses them, on my behalf.  All the while, continuing to do whatever it is/was I am/was doing, when they popped into my mind.

"And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not. As we have therefore opportunity, let us do good unto all men, especially unto them who are of the household of faith." 
Galatians 6:9-10

     Ultimately, I have been trying to keep my focus on Christ:  Who He is, what He has done, what He is doing, and what He will do.  I remember who I am in Him, and who He wants me to be, in this very moment.  And, I remember who those folks are.
     What about you?  How have you handled these moments in your life?  I am sure that there are other things that would come to mind, if I thought about it long enough.  Why not give you a turn to speak?
     

Monday, July 28, 2014

2014 July Day Book

Outside My Window:

...Is the soothing greenery of our front lawn.

I Am Thinking:

...About this new phase of our lives, again.

I Am Thankful For:

...This new phase of our lives:  that God has us moving forward, instead of backwards, or idling.

I Am Learning:

...How to keep up, so I don't have to catch up, at home.

From The Kitchen:

...Is the hum of the dishwasher.

I Am Wearing:

...A sage-green, with pewter buttons all down the front, dress.

I Am Creating:

...A crocheting project.  Pictures to follow completion, and delivery of gift. ;)

I Am Going:

...No where!  Enjoying having a home-base, and not needing to run around everywhere!  Country life is peaceful. :)

I Am Reading:

...The Book of John.  Contemplating reading Foxe's Book of Martyrs:  deep waters there, but necessary.

I Am Hoping:

...For the glorious salvation of all our lost loved ones, and enemies!

I Am Hearing:

...Our launderer blessedly clean our dirty clothes (a.k.a, washing machine running)!

I Am Noticing:

...God's handiworks.

I Am Wondering:

...When we might be able to start some house projects.  Got some ideas. :)

I Am Realizing:

...Once again, how very weak I am, and how strong God is!

Pondering These Words:

...Family.

Around The House:

...Is a lived-in feeling. :)

One Of My Favorite Things:

...Is being loved, the right way.  

A Few Plans For The Week:

  1. Keep up with the chores.
  2. Work on my crocheting project.
  3. Do at least one, thorough, Bible study.


Here Is A Picture Thought I Am Sharing:


Coming In The Clouds
Copyright 2014 Molding Into A Lady

"Behold, he cometh with clouds; and every eye shall see him, and they also which pierced him: and all kindreds of the earth shall wail because of him. Even so, Amen."
Revelation 1:7







Wednesday, July 23, 2014

W.o.W. Wednesday!

"...The young women to be sober..."
Titus 2:4a
Flower Arrangement 1878
George Goodwin Kilburn



     What does it mean to be sober?  What comes to your mind, when you hear that word?  How do we see it in our lives?

Here is the definition of "sober," as found in Webster's 1828 Dictionary, online:

SO'BER, adjective [Latin sobrius.]

1. Temperate in the use of spiritous liquors; habitually temperate; as a sober man.  
"Live a sober righteous and godly life."

2. Not intoxicated or overpowered by spiritous liquors; not drunken.  
"The sot may at times be sober."

3. Not mad or insane; not wild, visionary or heated with passion; having the regular exercise of cool dispassionate reason.  
"There was not a sober person to be had; all was tempestuous and blustering.  No sober man would put himself in danger, for the applause of escaping without breaking his neck."

4. Regular; calm; not under the influence of passion; as sober judgment; a man in his sober senses.

5. Serious; solemn; grave; as the sober livery of autumn.  
"What parts gay France from sober Spain? See her sober over a sampler, or gay over a jointed baby."

     I cannot speak for you, but for myself, just reading the definition(s) sober me up.  When I realize the gravity of my walk with Christ, how could it not?  Oh, but how to live it?
     I am not holding a monopoly on the applications of sobriety.  Yet, there are some ways that come to mind.  May I share them with you?


  1. Think before speaking.
  2. Think before reacting/responding.
  3. Be observant.
  4. Be considerate.
  5. Remember for Whom (God) you live.
  6. Remember that life is but a vapor: "Only one life, t'will soon be past.  Only what's done for Christ, will last."
  7. Remember that our lives get to be a constant witness for our Lord Jesus Christ.
  8. Remember that everything we do as women of God, matters:  "I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully." 1 Timothy 5:14 

     Those thoughts are just a few ideas that come to my mind.  I am sure that more ideas would come, should I take more time to ponder.  Maybe you have a few, you would like to share, in the comments section, below?
     May we give our blessed Lord and Saviour, the opportunity to sober us up...To mold us into ladies that live as in the day, not in the night, as He reminds us through our brother Paul:

"But of the times and the seasons, brethren, ye have no need that I write unto you. For yourselves know perfectly that the day of the Lord so cometh as a thief in the night. For when they shall say, Peace and safety; then sudden destruction cometh upon them, as travail upon a woman with child; and they shall not escape. But ye, brethren, are not in darkness, that that day should overtake you as a thief. Ye are all the children of light, and the children of the day: we are not of the night, nor of darkness. Therefore let us not sleep, as do others; but let us watch and be sober. For they that sleep sleep in the night; and they that be drunken are drunken in the night. But let us, who are of the day, be sober, putting on the breastplate of faith and love; and for an helmet, the hope of salvation. For God hath not appointed us to wrath, but to obtain salvation by our Lord Jesus Christ, Who died for us, that, whether we wake or sleep, we should live together with him. Wherefore comfort yourselves together, and edify one another, even as also ye do."
1 Thessalonians 5:1-11

Sunday Morning 1831
William Henry Hunt

Monday, July 21, 2014

Sunday Scripture: "It Will Be Worth It All," By Esther K. Rusthoi

It Will Be Worth It All

Esther K. Rusthoi
 Sometimes the day seems long,
Our trials hard to bear.
We´re tempted to complain,
to murmur and despair.
But Christ will soon appear
to catch his bride away!
All tears forever over
in God’s eternal day!


CHORUS:
It will be worth it all
when we see Jesus!
Life’s trials will seem so small
when we see Christ.
One glimpse of his dear face,
all sorrow will erase.
So, bravely run the race
till we see Christ.


At times the sky seems dark,
with not a ray of light;
We’re tossed and driven on,
no human help in sight.
But there is One in heaven,
Who knows our deepest care;
Let Jesus solve your problems,
just go to him in prayer.


CHORUS:
It will be worth it all
when we see Jesus!
Life’s trials will seem so small
when we see Christ.
One glimpse of his dear face,
all sorrow will erase.
So, bravely run the race
till we see Christ.

Life’s day will soon be o’re,
all storms forever past;
We’ll cross the great divide
to Glory, safe at last!
We’ll share the joys of heaven:
a harp, a home, a crown;
The tempter will be banished,
We’ll lay our burdens down.


CHORUS:
It will be worth it all
when we see Jesus!
Life’s trials will seem so small
when we see Christ.
One glimpse of his dear face,
all sorrow will erase.
So, bravely run the race
till we see Christ.
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